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In the "Lifestyle" there seems to be an expectation for all the female to be Bi & all the males to be hetro in order to fit in.

The reality is no where near that, what we have found over the last 5 years is generally speaking it is about half of each gender that enjoys bi play of one sort or another regardless of gender. We are only comfortable & enjoy bi play when both sexes are present & involved.

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We were made aware of this site very recently & first off would like to congratulate the people responsible for providing a non cost forum for us lifestyle people.

I & my wife am a very long term soul mate couple being married 20 years and together 25 years in January this year.

We have enjoyed the lifestyle for the last 5 years together.

We are what we call a hetro-flexible couple, or Bi-selective take your pick.

Anne suggested staring out with wanting another man to join us & I was very open & excited about the possibility.

We both very quickly discovered that we both enjoyed in particular same sex (bi) foreplay when we were playing with others.

The other really interesting thing was the playmates that were Bi friendly were the best & most comfortable & fun experiences.

But both of us are still very much hetro when it came to social & physical attraction.
We did meet a wonderful Fully Bi couple in Sydney & this is where we learnt the differences with Bi people. There is a scale of sexual preferences at one end homophobic the other end homosexual in-between somewhere is where the rest all fit in & where you fit is up to you.

The Sydney Bi couple was equally attracted to opposite & same sex physically, socially & sexually they will play 1 on 1 separately with same or opposite sex people as well. That to us is truely bi-sexual.

So we are in the bi something position, so moving along we came across the hetro-flexible term & then the Bi-Selective term was put up with a female of another couple we met recently & both apply to us even though we hate being labed anything as we are just "US"

Another few things to point out that we have learnt over the years that apply in this forum.

In the "Lifestyle" there seems to be an expectation for all the female to be Bi & all the males to be hetro in order to fit in.

The reality is no where near that, what we have found over the last 5 years is generally speaking it is about half of each gender that enjoys bi play of one sort or another regardless of gender. We are only comfortable & enjoy bi play when both sexes are present & involved.

A lot of women particularly in couples will say they are Bi to be accepted or for the opportunity to play with another couple & the reverse for the males..... We feel this is not the right thing to do as we will always be totally honest about our sexuality & where our boundaries are & if the other person(s) are uncomfortable then we are the wrong couple for them. Honesty will always bring the best experience.

Just another thing which has been so interesting to learn over the years as well is the anal sex discussion. I love giving anal to my wife; she is not big on it but on occasion does enjoy the anal fun. AS it turns out she is in the majority of women. About 2-3 in 10 women will enjoy anal sex with another person; the number increases a bit with the DP experience.

So what we have found is the majority of women do not like receiving anal sex. On the male front it is the total opposite, most guys that enjoy the anal side of Bi play are "bottom" guys ( a term we learnt) they enjoy receiving anal sex. Some are (versatile) enjoy both giving & receiving & the minority are (Top) givers of anal sex.

The guys that enjoy to bottom play do have the most powerful orgasms we have ever seen a person of any gender have. It is the most amazingly powerful erotic experience, particularly when he is fucking her & getting fucked at the same time. To us it is the same sort of experience as DP or DV etc when we are all fucking going off & Cumming together.

As for the STD issue, well that is not a gender or Homosexual or Bisexual issue & anyone that says different is kidding themselves.

STD's are not gender specific, nor are they specific to a particular sexual demographic. The safe sex issue applies to all that enjoy sex outside a monogamous or a sexually abstinent person(s).

Anyway that is a few things that we wanted to share, there is more we would be happy to expand on & some other things of interest that can share as well.

Stay sexy & have fun all.... xxx

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