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A while back I read a post on one of the forums from a couple who seemed to be having trouble because they were too young.

We often meet young couples at the club and seem to shy away from them. There is no particular reason why young couples should have any less fun than people closer to our own age. So why then is it a recurrent theme?

A while back we wrote down what we saw as the typical profile of a lifestyle couple . Notice the typical age group around 35 - 45?

So where does that put you if you are in your early 20's? We pride ourselves on being inclusive. We would never exclude anyone just because they were that young.

I'm not speaking for anyone else here, but we have one particular bias - we won't play with anyone who is around our kid's age. No particular reason again, just a personal bias.

Does the bias come from a lack of experience? Yes, in part.

There is no substitute for an additional 20 years experience. 20 years to get to know yourself. We are not saying that all 22 years olds are inexperienced or in some way incompetent. Just that 42 year olds are 20 years more experienced. There are 22 year olds out there that think 42 year olds are starting to get boring!

On the subject of boring, in general the older people have less trouble with alcohol. Perhaps they just can't cope with the hangovers any more. Our experience is that if someone loses it and gets really really drunk, more often than not they are quite young.

Perhaps young people could argue that they don't need to go to a couples club for a bit of extra curricular activity. They have the advantage at their stage of life they can pretty much have sex with whomever they want. The have the advantage of having less flabby bits, less middle age spread, less wrinkles. No dispute about that. But guess what - I kinda like a mummy tummy and all the things that make girls close to my age what they are.

What about the play? This is only our experience. Perhaps we haven't met the right young people yet. But by a country mile, the most fun we have ever had is with people close to our own age group. Why? Possibly older people have a kind of self confidence that you lack when you are young. I know I did.

Indisputably, if young people look after themselves, they will have more stamina. They can play longer, harder, stronger. The key is - if they look after themselves. I know quite a few people who are fitter at 40 than they ever were at 20. It just depends on the individual and not a general class of people of a particular age.

I think the dating services do young people a great disservice. Invariably the fake profiles they set up are for people in their early twenties. Perhaps they think we'll be better fooled or more interested in people in that demographic. Either way, the fake profiles aren't fooling anyone. We do get jaded seeing profiles for all these 24/26 year old couples which are obviously fake.

There is also a perception that young people's own relationship is less stable. You can't argue against the logic. A couple who've been together for 18 or twenty years are in a stable relationship. Not necessarily more stable than a couple who are at year 2 of a 20 year relationship. But you can rest assured they are completely happy together.

Really it doesn't matter how old you are.

What is important is your attitude. If you are out to have a good time then you most likely will. If you are 45 and have the attitude of a 25 year old then people will appreciate it. If you are 25 and have the attitude of a 45 year old then you'll have a whole bunch of 45 year olds chasing you. Anyone can be classy and sophisticated regardless of their age.

What do you think?

[FROM Too Young for Play Time?]